Still Water Travel



January 18, 2003

Past Councils

This Month's Topic


Nonviolent Communication - Reduex!


Marcelline Brogli, MFT


I am pleased to announce that we will be following up on last month's Council of Hearts & Minds with a deeper study and practice of nonviolent communication.


Last council we began our explorations of this fascinating topic and found that it was such a departure from our normal method of communication, as to be like learning a foreign language. Newly enlightened to this powerful tool, there was a general agreement that to really put this communication style to work in our lives, it would be beneficial to practice these new skills with others who understand the process.

And so, Marcelline has generously offered to return for an evening of deeper study and practice.  Turns out she likes us as much as we like her!!

We are asking that each participant for this next Council come with two or three situations in mind where they would like to apply the process of nonviolent communication. We will have the opportunity to practice with others, ask questions of Marcelline, and share our own insights into the power of this wonderful communication tool.

If you did not attend the first council on nonviolent communication, you are most welcome to come this time around.  However, we do ask that you study up on the practice by visiting their website.

Also, Marcelline is offering an introductory class at her home on either Saturday January 3 or January 10.  It is recommended that you try to attend one of Marcelline's classes to familiarize yourself with this wonderful communication style.  You can call Marcelline at (858) 755-4053 or via email at


Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a process that strengthens our ability
to inspire compassion from others and respond compassionately to others and ourselves.

NVC guides us to reframe how we express ourselves and how we hear others by focusing our consciousness on what we are observing, feeling, needing, and requesting.

It is a language of empathy and honesty, and is sometimes described as “ the language of the heart.”


Practical and proven in daily life around the world, Nonviolent Communication is a reliable language for being heard, hearing others, clearly and confidently expressing our needs and dreams, and for working through conflict with compassion and success.

Since I started the Council of Hearts & Minds, I have wanted to dedicate an evening to The Power of Non-Violence.  A powerful and emotionally charged topic in these times of war, terrorism and worldwide angst, I recognize that it is a topic to be approached with care.

As I was researching who might be an appropriate guest lecturer for such an evening, I happened upon Marcelline and this powerful tool of nonviolent communication. It occurred to me that perhaps the best way to approach worldwide compassion and peaceful resolutions to vast conflicts, is to start at home with our personal relationships.

What we learn from our daily interactions as we resolve conflicts, come to agreements, simultaneously support our needs and those of others, navigate difficult relationships and connect compassionately with others, can then be applied in ever widening circles of awareness to our communities, nation and the world.

We will actively participate in the learning process during this mini-workshop and come away from the experience with a deeper understanding of the power of our communication processes.

And so, this Council of Hearts & Minds is a first step in an evolving process of supporting our community in a viable effort to spread compassion and understanding in an evolving world consciousness.


Del Mar, CA 92014
Tel: 858-755-4053 (H/W)
Fax: 858-792-7643




Personal NVC History:

What attracted you, how did you get started and what was
your motivation to become a trainer?

In 1988 I was initiated to NVC by Marshall at the University of Humanistic Studies in Del Mar.
I soon joined the small local NVC group and attended more Marshall Rosenberg workshops and classes with local trainers.
I was brought up in two families, one "Jackal" and one "Giraffe". And yes, these are labels.
From early on I wondered why one and the same child could be brought up in such different manners,
I guess I wanted to know what they were and promote the one that felt better.
In my work as an MFT I was tired of listening to couples accuse and blame each other.
I was happy to have found another, more constructive method and soon integrated NVC into my work.

NVC Training History

How long have you been a trainer, and how did you receive
your training?

I received training from: Marshall B. Rosenberg, Annie Muller, Holley Humphrey, Dee Klocow, Rita Herzog and others

Training Preferences

Who do you enjoy working with and what do you enjoy about working
with each?

I like the challenge of working with couples before or in trouble.
It helps to have an education and license in Marriage and Family therapy.
I am eager to bring NVC into organizations, especially educational and health organizations.
I love working with elementary school children. It gets a little harder with HS students;
sometimes I do not understand their language.

Specific Programs You Offer

Regular NVC activities:

-Tuesday morning - women's group.
- Private introductions to NVC for individuals and families.
- First Saturday of the month three hour introduction to NVC in Del Mar.
- Ongoing Tuesday evening practice group.
- All day Saturday couples group.

I offer training with:

Individuals, Couples and Families, Teachers, students (ages 5 up).
Diagonal training in businesses where each layer of the organization receives training.
NVC for group or organization retreats in and out of town, hospice worker training,
training in Spanish and German.


The Center for Nonviolent Communication
Resources and information


6:30 - 7:00 PM Social gathering and settling in
7:00 - 7:30 PM Presentation of Discussion Topic, Lecture or Selected Reading
7:30 - 9:30 PM Discussion and exploration


  • Food and beverages will not be provided at the gatherings. Please eat before arriving and bring any beverages that you are interested in drinking.


Simple Considerations of Conduct


  • Please be on time so as not to disrupt a discussion in progress.
  • Respect the opinions and beliefs of others.
  • Speak from the heart and to the point.
  • Please don't interrupt others who are speaking. Allow them the space to finalize their thoughts.
  • Please do not challenge others in heated debate or argument.
  • Discuss ideas rather than each other's opinions.
  • Please help us stay on topic.


We look forward to seeing you at the next Council of Hearts and Minds.

Thank you for your support and for bringing yourself wholly to the experience.

RSVP for a space at the next gathering